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Sushi, Vodka-Tonic and Facebook


Sushi, Vodka-Tonic and Facebook


The other day, I posted a picture on Facebook of a plate full of Kroger sushi and a red cup – you know, the ones from college dorm parties and backyard BBQ’s.

The caption said, “Sushi, vodka-tonic and a great movie… my perfect Saturday night in.”

Beforehand, I asked my friend Lee – my best friend so you’ll probably hear about her a lot – if I should post it and she said no. Not because she had a problem with it, but because she knew other people might.

As usual, Lee was right. Shortly after, I got an inbox message from a girl like, “um, sis…”

Sigh. Let me go take this picture down.

As this is my first article on The Fly Society, I’m not sure if telling you I like vodka tonic is a good idea. But let me explain why I took the picture down.

First of all, let me confess that my first response was NOT to take it down.

It was more like…

“This is my social media and if you don’t like it unfollow me!”

“Well aren’t we being judgmental today?”

“Jesus drank alcohol…”

And my personal favorite:

“I don’t need YOUR approval of what I post on MY page!”

Although I didn’t send her back those responses, I definitely shared them with Lee in a “girl you won’t believe this,” kind of story…

Not exactly one of my more spiritual moments. Lol.

And she responded in a way that any good Christian friend should: by encouraging me to be righteous, even if I was already right.

Amen. So I took down the picture. Here are the three reasons why.

1. The Bible is the Standard

When I made the decision to follow Jesus, part of that was committing to live His way and not my way. I kind of like doing things my way, haha. But John 8:31-32 tells us that holding to His teachings is the only way for us to be a true follower. Soooo, His way goes.

That means that in every situation I have to put what the Word says over what I think, feel and believe (because John 12:18). Again, not something I was super excited about at first but now, I love it. Because actually, when I look at all the mess my feelings and opinions BC – before Christ – got me into… phew! This life is WAY better!

But in situations like this where I wanna let someone know exactly what I think about my rights on Facebook or Jesus’ drinking habits, that also means I have to see what the Bible says about it before I say anything about it.

So what does the Bible actually say?

2. To Be Considerate

Clearly, Facebook isn’t in the Bible. It was written 2,000 years ago, long before Mark Zuckerburg’s brilliance. But Hebrews 4:12-13 tells us that the Word is living and active. It’s still applicable today because it doesn’t just judge our actions; it also judges our hearts behind the actions. And in 2,000 years, our hearts haven’t changed!

So in this case, the Bible doesn’t tell us what to post on Facebook. But in Mark 9:42 God does tell us that it’s better to be thrown into the ocean with a millstone around our neck than to intentionally make a brother or sister in Christ struggle.

My natural response to this is, “What they struggle with isn’t my responsibility,” which sounds a lot like Cain (Am I my brother’s keeper, Genesis 4:9). Never a good thing to be on the same page as a murderer.

Or I’m tempted to judge them like, “Sounds like someone needs to get in their Bible more.” Which is even worse and goes directly against Romans 14:1-4, which talks about having contempt for the weak and judging someone else’s servant (Read it…it’s an all-time great and convicts me every time).

Bottom line is, we’re in this whole Christ-following thing together. And if one of my brothers or sisters struggles with alcohol, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong for me to drink it, but it does mean I shouldn’t be putting it right in front of them.

I would feel terrible if my picture and reference to liquor encouraged a recovering alcoholic on a hard day to relapse. “Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial.” (1 Corinthians 10:23).

3. God Requires Humility and Accountability

The main point of this issue comes down to pride – as most usually do. The Bible is super clear on how we should treat each other as brothers and sisters in Christ. And one of those ways is with complete humility. Another scripture that convicts me every single time in this area is Philippians 2:3-8. I mean, really God? Did you really have to say it like that? Lol. #Ouch

But it says what it says. And so if when one of our brothers or sisters in Christ comes to us with a concern, and we immediately reply with an, “I can do whatever I want” attitude, we’re the one in sin.

We can do whatever we want. That’s why we have free will. But so did Jesus. And He chose to die for our sins even though He didn’t want to (Matthew 26:36-39) to give us the freedom to follow His example.

The other thing the Bible is clear about is our need to point out sin in brothers and sisters when we see it (Matthew 18:15). So in doing that, this sister was just trying to follow the Bible, trying to help me do everything I could to help my spiritual family get to Heaven. And for that reason, I needed to respect that. Even if she would’ve come at me sideways – which she didn’t but if – I can’t allow her sin to make me sin (Galatians 6:1).

So basically, I took it down because my goal as a follower of Christ is to imitate his character and in this example specifically, his obedience, love and humility. Sometimes it’s easier than others and in this case, it definitely took self-denial. But then again, that’s the path we’ve all chosen as Christians (Luke 9:23).

What do you think? Have you ever been in this situation? And did you struggle as much as I did? Haha.

Super excited to be on this journey with you. My next article will be about walking the line between being all things to all men and being in but not of the world – something I deal with daily and can’t wait to chat about!

Until then, I’ll be praying that our daily steps glorify the One who allows them.

Love you,


P.S. Don’t just take my word for it! Study it out for yourself 🙂

Scripture References Used:

John 8:31-32

John 12:48

Hebrews 4:12-13

Mark 9:42

Genesis 4:9

Romans 14:1-4

1 Corinthians 10:23

Philippians 2:3-8

Matthew 26:36-39

Matthew 18:15

Galatians 6:1

Luke 9:23


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Chantelle Anderson

Chantelle Anderson is a Confidence and Faith Coach for professional women. Her background includes playing in the WNBA and Corporate Sales, and she currently co-leads a Bible Talk at her church in Miami, FL.

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